Swipe Right is our advice column that tackles the tricky world of online dating. This week: how to find a semi-regular hookup – and avoid scary messages

• Got your own online dating quandaries? Send ’em to Eva:

I am 37, a single mom and am looking to find someone, but not a boyfriend. After years of slowly losing my mojo and sexual confidence, I am slowly rediscovering my drives and desires and now want to find someone to explore that with.

I don’t need or want a father figure for my child, and as nice as it would be to have dinner and a drink, that is really as far as I want things to go.

I am looking for a semi-regular hookup with someone I can get to know over time and explore my sexuality, but I am not ready to actually meet someone for the longer term.

You’re already ahead of the game because you are able to articulate what you are looking for. Good for you.

Now, it’s fairly likely that you won’t have trouble finding people who would like to have sex with you if you start meeting some people online

If you have been reading my column for a while, you may have noticed that a common thread is people not knowing what they want, or coming across other people who can’t articulate or communicate their desires, and the awkwardness that ensues. So. This is a great start!

If your tastes run to the kinky, you could also consider investigating in apps and sites that are more open about their focus on sex, such as Fetlife

Some you’ll find repulsive, some you’ll find boring, but if you meet enough new folks it’s bound to happen that you’ll have enough chemistry with someone to want go to bed with them, and vice versa.Continue reading→